Dear Brah

My friend Lisa posted a link to the HeTexted site recently on Facebook and it stirred up quite a bit.  Is this something that women really need?  If I "Ask a Bro," am I really just "Asking a Douchebag"?  Am I just old and don't get that the younger set might want to display all their heartbreak publicly with no qualms?  Is it actually empowering?  If your friends are sick of hearing about this guy, is it smart to keep feeding the monkey?  If you're having trouble moving on, how healthy is it really to open the wound exponentially?

I know it's hard when you're in the middle of a heartbreak or in the thick of trying to DTR to see the bigger picture, but I have to state the obvious: if you're going on a website to ask if he's into you, HE'S PROBABLY NOT.  I know it sucks, but it's probably true. If a guy wants to call you, he will.  If he wants to spend time with you, he will.  He's not thinking about ANY of this as much as you are. And, maybe he is busy.  If he is, and he likes you, he will be in touch.


I get that the website is designed to help a sister out in her time of need.  I have had many of occasion to dissect a text or lack thereof from a boy, but I just don't see how taking a sidebar of that obsession to the internets would have helped any.  In fact, I think it would have made it worse.  To be able to obsess and dwell with an audience of millions would have exhasperated what was already a touchy situation.  At least if I only had my friends to annoy with my constant analysis, it would keep it all in check.  Most of the time, you're just looking for someone to say it's ok to call him or that he really does like you, he just couldn't find one minute in the previous two weeks to do anything about it. With an infinite audience, you can escape and focus on it all the time.  Not good.

Then there's the internet.  Do you really want the same trolls who comment on Yahoo articles to give you love advice.  Eww.  Or the douchey guys in those pictures?  No thank you.  I wish all the lovelorn women the best and hope that they are able to find the answers that they are looking for.  Go with your gut.  Do it right.  Think locally; ask a friend. 

He's either in or in the way. 

New Single: Yuck "Middle Sea"

I'm back, bitches!  And, I can't think of a better song to come out of hiatus to than the new one by Yuck, "Middle Sea." I wrote about this band last year when I fell in love with "Chew." It was a song that I loved but never bought because I couldn't find it anywhere. Damn, I suck at Google.

Cut to a year and change later, and Chew is back. Minus Daniel Blumberg, their lead singer, and now a threesome. So happy to hear that they didn't miss a beat, because "Middle Sea" is effing awesome!! It takes me back to my shoegazing days in the 90's and fills my heart with joy. I'm not sure I can stop listening to it, it's just that damn good. It's like Dinosaur Jr and Yo La Tengo had a British love child and named it Yuck. Hot damn!

Yuck's sophomore album Glow & Behold will be released on October 1st (Fat Possum/Pharmacy), and I can't wait!

New Single: White Lies

I'm a little more than obsessed with that throwback gothy sound. It reminds me of the days of yore and always makes me feel happy (which is probably the exact opposite of its intention).  White Lies is one of those bands that has that darkwave sound that I am speak of.  I first fell in love with them with "Death." I literally listened to it over and over again. So, it makes me super happy that they are back with a new song, "There Goes Our Love Again," and back to the sound of their debut record To Lose My Life. Some may argue that the video for "There Goes Our Love Again" is commercial and big budget, but it's just nice to see these guys back out there and making music that makes me want to pop it on repeat. Over and over and over...

White Lies new album Big TV is out August 12th and I CAN'T WAIT!

New Single: Bloc Party

The moment I heard "Get Lucky" by Daft Punk, I declared it the song of the summer.  Then I heard "Blurred Lines" by Robin Thicke and Pharrell had to also declare it the song of the summer.  While both of those songs are going to blaring at every summer bbq in 2013, eventually we will get sick of them and seek out respite.  This is where "Rachet" for Bloc Party fits in nicely.  It's an awesome song, but it's not going to be overplayed on the KIIS-FM's or the Power 106's, and it's definitely not on Pauly D's playlist.  It's a song that makes you dance, makes you happy and is perfect for celebrating the fact that you can wear flip flops without getting frostbite.

Summer songs are ones that soundtrack the fun-filled memories, while watching fireworks or making out with that random guy you met at the beach.  Which reminds me, I might need to head down to Hermosa tonight to see what's crackin'!

Look for Bloc Party's upcoming EP, The Nextwave Sessions, out on August 13, 2013.

New Single: Glass Candy

In trying to make sense of what happened last night on Game of Thrones, I am searching for something to make me feel like all is well in the world and that everything will be ok if Robb Stark does not exist.  I realize that it's a made up world, with characters who do not exist.  But, CRIKEY, what was that George RR Martin?!  My throat may as well have been slit as I saw it coming and couldn't stop it.  I suppose I could've read the books and had a heads up, but I don't think that the hole in my heart would be any less large.

That's where Glass Candy comes in with their fittingly titled "Warm in the Winter."  This song makes me happy.  It makes me want to dance.  It makes me want to twirl in circles.  It makes me want to love.  It makes me want to live.  It makes me want to forget that last night's episode ever existed. 

So, EFF YOU, Game of Thrones.  I will not let your Red Wedding of torturous endeavor get me down.  I'm going to continue on in my own happy land, and maybe go read a Sweet Valley High novel to soothe my soul.  Eat an Oreo.  Dip it in milk.  Chocolate milk.  And, then, and only then, will I make a note in my calendar to never EVER EVER accept a party invitation from a Frey.

OPEN RANT: Today in WTF

I was reading an article in Oprah about a woman who is 50 years old and had been depressed her whole life.  Like, since she was 5 years old, whole life.  The article was about a transformation.  A woman who changed what was on the outside to make herself feel good on the inside. I'd love to tell you that the story had a happy ending, but I couldn't finish it.  There were a few key elements of the story that really stuck me in the craw and I couldn't get past them.  It started when the woman dropped that she is married with kids.  I'm thinking ok, didn't see that one coming.  She's super depressed.  Way she told it, she was miserable.  Okay, fine. Not so miserable that she didn't get out of the house to land a man and have sex at least twice.  Good for her.  I kept reading.  Then, she tells the story about a disgusting puss filled cyst she acquired because she was so filthy that the dirt infected her body because she never showered. Like, ever.  That was it.  Now I'm PISSED.

Truth be told, it's not this woman.  It's the situation.  This woman is so foul and dirty that she had to go to a doctor to have a green boil removed from her body. 

WHAT.

She's married. 

THE.

Has kids. 

FUCK.

I shower. Every fricking day. I work out.  I'm fun.  I have friends.  I like good music.  I'm entertaining.  I'm responsible.  I'm nice.  I'm CLEAN.

And, I'M. STILL. SINGLE.  No kids.

I don't get it.  They say there's a pot for every lid. Someone for everyone.  Clearly, there is.  She found her lid. 

Where's mine?!!?!

New Single: Little Daylight

As the wind blows through Southern California sending palm fronds all over the streets and allergies into overdrive, I am finding solace in Little Daylight's new song "Name In Lights."  It's luscious, dreamy and synth-y...a must-have for Spring!  The hook, "You know you've got your name in lights" is infectious and I can't stop listening. Maybe you're from NYC and know Little Daylight from there, or you've heard one of their remixes for bands like Passion Pit, Temper Trap and Freelance Whales.  If so, consider yourself lucky...I'm new and can't wait for more.  Spring fling, let's do this!